The Buddha abides in four abodes: Love and Kindness, Compassion, the Joy of Others, and Equanimity.

I try to apply this teaching by giving myself the permission to love and be kind!… but if I can’t do that… I can be caring and compassionate!… but if I can’t manage that… I can at least be happy that they are happy… but even if that isn’t available…

… then don’t let it knock me over.